To shoulder pad or not to shoulder pad?

Hello everyone,

Below I have pasted a copy of a question I put on the wonderful site "Come sew lutterloh with me, thought I would post it here as well.

Seems like this would be a good place to post this question:

I have 'no shoulders' = they slope away like the ones in the above diagram.  My way of fixing this is to use small shoulder pads the foam kind.   i feel they improve my appearance, giving me a squarer shoulder and clothes hang better from them.

However my daughter (30yo) hates me in them.   on this past weekend I also had negative comments from 2 other women that they weren't flattering - one said they were dating me and the other said didn't look good because you could see them through my knitted sweater (jumper as we call them in Australia!)
I do feel strongly that they improve me but I don't want to be just stubborn and holding on to my own opinion if I am wrong.   What do u think.
BTW, i think it is so marvellous that we can share from all parts of the globe.  As I write this, I am propped up in bed, it's raining outside and I'm contemplating getting up and fantasizing about what i will sew with lutterloh today.   What a life!
My problem is i fantasize too much and leave too little time for sewing!